The Handkerchief Code (also known as the Hanky Code, Bandana Code, and Flagging) is a traditional form of signalling to others what your sexual preferences and interests are. Gay men used, and still do use, this code to communicate with each other in the noisy and distracting environment of gay bars. Although not as widely used these days, it is still something that should be known and that we should be aware of and is, among those who know, a great conversation starter at times. Wearing a handkerchief on the left side of the body typically indicates one is a “top” (one considered active in the practice of the act/fetish indicated by the color of the handkerchief), while wearing it on the right side of the body would indicate one is a “bottom” (one considered passive in the practice of the act/fetish indicated by the color of the handkerchief).
Unlike genderqueer people that bend the rules of gender, agender people reject a gender completely.
So now that you know the basics of the what, let’s get into a bit of details on what these colors and patterns could be interpreted as. We would love to have each flag carried by someone who represents their identity. In 2014, Salem Fontana designed the agender Pride Flag, which has seven horizontal stripes. Want to represent the Master/slave community. Agender Pride Flag color meanings: Black and white: absence of gender. Also, as you will see in the charts below, some of the colors could be interpreted in different ways depending on the people involved. “So…does this mean I should ONLY pick colors based off of things on these lists I’d enjoy?” I’m so sartorially clueless that when I spot a gay guy wearing a brown hanky in the left pocket, I usually think, Fashionable. NO!!! The whole point of us pet players is a way for us to have fun and be ourselves!!! You should never let anyone else determine what makes you happy and what you wear….unless you have negotiated and consented to that of course!! The stripes are colored black, gray, and white, with a central green one, then the opposite white, gray, and black to finish. Here’s what they all mean: Black and white stripes represent a lack of gender Gray represents semi-genderless Green represents nonbinary genders. This post is more to make sure that everyone is educated and aware of what SOME people may assume. And truly, if they assume and act on that assumption without a discussion happening first, that is something that would need to be raised amongst the greater community anyway.